Turn Up The AC

A Reason, A Season, And A Lifetime

November 04, 2020 AC Fischer Season 1 Episode 52
Turn Up The AC
A Reason, A Season, And A Lifetime
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Turn Up The AC
A Reason, A Season, And A Lifetime
Nov 04, 2020 Season 1 Episode 52
AC Fischer

They say that people come into our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime but what if it's not that black and white? On this episode, I explore the impact that people can make simply by being there.

Special thanks to Alexis Arralynn

Be sure to check out my other podcast,  When The Bough Breaks

If you'd like to record your own episode of Turn Up The AC, send me an email to find out how [email protected]

Support the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/acfischerpod)

Show Notes Transcript

They say that people come into our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime but what if it's not that black and white? On this episode, I explore the impact that people can make simply by being there.

Special thanks to Alexis Arralynn

Be sure to check out my other podcast,  When The Bough Breaks

If you'd like to record your own episode of Turn Up The AC, send me an email to find out how [email protected]

Support the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/acfischerpod)

An unknown poet once wrote that people come into our lives for a reason, a season or a lifetime. 

This poet suggested that once we figure out which one it is, we will know what to do for each person. 

While I agree that the length of time each person spends in our lives is undetermined and variable, I don’t know that they should be treated differently according to the length of their stay.

My viewpoint is further complicated by the idea that I don’t subscribe to the notion of everything unfolding according to the plans of a higher power. I believe that value can and should be found in all of our experiences but the “reason” is usually the product of reverse engineering – not divine purpose.

When I look at the people who showed up at just the right moment before disappearing, the people who walked with me for a while, and the people who are permanent fixtures in my life, I see one thing that puts them all in the same group: those who have left their mark on me.

None of us exists in a bubble. Of course we all have the core essence of our being that I like to think is unaffected by our experiences but we also have the parts which are born, defined, and developed by the people we rub up against.

I recently parted ways with someone who I thought was going to be with me for a lifetime. She helped me through some difficult times, she reassured and supported me, she loved me, and she treated me like I was essential – not optional. She left a mark that will never go away even though she did.

If she hadn’t come along when she did, I almost certainly would have taken my own life. In retrospect, that seems like a reason. Because our forever plans were disappointed by a variety of factors, she was only here for a season.

The time we spent together literally added years to my life. It allowed me the time to learn that I am valuable and lovable. It changed the trajectory of my life forever.

She’s gone, and happily ever after won’t happen with her, but she is a part of me for a lifetime.