Turn Up The AC

Living Out Loud

March 31, 2021 AC Fischer, Alexis Arralynn Season 1 Episode 70
Turn Up The AC
Living Out Loud
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Turn Up The AC
Living Out Loud
Mar 31, 2021 Season 1 Episode 70
AC Fischer, Alexis Arralynn

What can I tell you about someone who is both my friend and my hero?...

Special thanks to Alexis Arralynn for encouraging me to write...

Be sure to check out my other podcasts When The Bough Breaks and What I Like About You...

If you'd like to record your own episode of Turn Up The AC, send me an email to find out how [email protected]...

To hear our conversations with Dave Warnock, visit www.wtbbpod.com and www.likeaboutyoupod.com...

Thanks to itsjustnikia for introducing this episode!

Support the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/acfischerpod)

Show Notes Transcript

What can I tell you about someone who is both my friend and my hero?...

Special thanks to Alexis Arralynn for encouraging me to write...

Be sure to check out my other podcasts When The Bough Breaks and What I Like About You...

If you'd like to record your own episode of Turn Up The AC, send me an email to find out how [email protected]...

To hear our conversations with Dave Warnock, visit www.wtbbpod.com and www.likeaboutyoupod.com...

Thanks to itsjustnikia for introducing this episode!

Support the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/acfischerpod)

 “I am more interested in the quality of my life than the quantity of my days.”

~Dave Warnock


On September 22 2019, I was watching one of my favourite YouTube shows: The Atheist Experience. The guest on that episode was a man who immediately captured my attention. He shared about a relatively new campaign called Dying Out Loud.



In February of that year, Dave Warnock received news that nobody would have been OK with. His doctor told him that he had ALS, and that his life expectancy was very short. 



Dave went on to explain what his work was all about, and what his plans were moving forward. This part was fairly predictable. What surprised me was how much encouragement he offered to the viewers. That really got me to thinking.



How would I receive news like that? I mean, people always say that you can’t know unless it happens but I’m not sure that’s completely true for me. When I something as basic as a sprain, I get depressed. When I’m bedridden with the flu, I just want to be left to my moping. ALS, though? I’m sure I’d become really toxic.



Toxic is not a word that I would have used to describe this guy with the terminal diagnosis. If anything, it seemed to have unleashed the best possible version of him. What an inspiration!



I was so excited to tell my girlfriend about him. “You have to check this guy out!” I told her.



As many of you know, one of our other shows (WTBB shameless plug) deals with family estrangement. We had learned enough about Dave’s story to know that he was an ex-evangelical minister, and that his family relationships had really suffered as a result of his deconversion. We really wanted to connect with him, and this seemed to present an opportunity too golden to pass up. 



I sent Dave a message through FB. 



Hi Dave. First of all, I want to thank you for accepting my friend request! I saw you on AXP a few times, and was truly touched by your outlook.



I host a podcast called Turn Up The AC, where I try to draw people into a place of introspection through sharing from my deepest insecurities, secrets, etc. I frequently struggle to accept the not-so-nice things in life but these were put into a healthier perspective when I took a few minutes to hear what you've had to say recently.



My fiancee Alexis is also a podcaster. Her show deals with issues related to family estrangement. We would love to have you on to share your story, and perhaps discuss some of the challenges of maintaining family relationships with people with whom you no longer share a faith.



I hope this message finds you well! Thank you for everything you do!”



I won’t get into the details of the interview. You can hear for yourself at wtbbpod.com



We had no idea that this interview was going to put us in a position where we could honestly call this beautiful man our friend.

Dave is many things. He’s an atheist activist. He’s the guy who’s dying out loud, he’s a father and a son. He’s an inspiration. He’s probably a guy with a swelled head if he’s listening! 



To me, he’s everything I want to be. He’s strong when he’s got every excuse to be weak. He’s transparent when being private would be safer. He’s honest about his shortcomings, when his public image should come first. He’s generous with his time when he’s got very little of it. He’s a good man!



Anyone who is even basically familiar with Dave probably knows most of the things I’ve shared. What I really want to highlight is what isn’t public information.



When we finished our first Zoom conversation with Dave, he started looking around. “Bevan! Come meet my friends!” he called to the space outside the view of the camera. We got to chat with Dave and his girlfriend Bevan for quite a while. They invited us in to their lives with open arms.



Some people say to keep in touch but you never speak again. Dave is not on of these people!



When I was struggling with a bad attitude, Dave was the first one to offer meaningful support. He told me that he understands trying to be “on” all the time because people are watching and listening. He told me that he has those days too, and not to beat myself up.



When I was nervous about interviewing one of my heroes, Dave was there to remind me that my hero was just a person.



As I’ve mentioned, Dave is a friend. He’s also one of my heroes. And I want everyone to know that he is not just a person. He’s a shining example of everything we should be.



To learn more about Dave visit daveoutloud.com, and listen to our conversations with him on What I Like About You and WTBB. Links in this week’s show notes.